You won't actually see anything, unless you believe it first.Our beliefs are so ingrained that they dictate what we pay attention to and are aware of.
We have all met people who seem completely oblivious to their obvious shortcomings. This is because they do not believe they are real, so they literally don't even see them.
If you don't believe in it, you won't see it, even if it's glaring you in the face.
Thus, to motivate people to change, you have to build a campaign to help them be aware of their behaviours and their effect on others.
Slowly revealing how specific ( be really specific) behaviours impact others will help someone see their impact and slowly change. Only when you start to really see something can awareness change.
For instance, when I was a funny motivational speaker for an insurance company, they had a CEO who was not a good listener. He would instantly disregard others ideas and blindly push through with his goals, without input. When asked about his teams feedback on his policies, he suggested the whole team is on board. He was very wrong, and he didn't even know it. He was blind to the fact that his leadership was destroying morale and he actually wasn't leading anyone.
We had to slowly reveal to the CEO scerios that showed he was not listening, and how it was having a negative impact. Over time, he could see how he disregarded others and pushed through without imput. Finally, he believed his poor listening habits were having a negative impact.
Seeing is believing. Help others see their behaviours and how it impact others and this can drive positive change.
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