We can disagree with others without being sucked into negativity or confrontation. With a little practice, we can learn to channel our emotions and steer away from the argument about who's right and wrong and remain neutral.
Spiritual guru Eckhart Tolle says that it’s when we derive our sense of self from our viewpoint that we create suffering.
Your real sense of identity arises from a deeper place, your consciousness. It doesn’t take sides and identify with your viewpoint.
Thus, you can debate your beliefs with passion without being attached to them. You do not need to prove you’re right.
Most arguments throw people into their ego. The ego thrives on being right and its attachment is unhealthy. When you remain attached to your thoughts or ideas you become less flexible and if others don't agree, you can take it personally.
Proving you're right, usually means somebody else is wrong. It does not advocate for the good of the group or the right thing to do.
Mr. Tolle suggests that beneath pain fear and anger is consciousness. For some people, it’s buried very deep. This is because they identify so strongly with their beliefs they have to assert those ideals at all cost.
What’s important isn’t what’s happening around you but your state of consciousness. It’s how you respond to what happens to you that matters.
Eckhart Tolle was a guest speaker at an event I attended over 20 years ago and I have been a fan ever since. I have read both his books. His concepts are solid, although sometimes hard to apply.
In the midst of confrontation or stress, tuning out the ego and tuning into your consciousness can be tricky. That's why we need practice. Eckhart Tolle is a strong proponent of meditation to quiet the mind and the ego.
I personally love his thoughts on leaning away from your viewpoint instead of getting attached to it. Basically, view your thoughts as separate from yourself, almost like it's happening in a movie. Here you remain neutral and don't attach to the ideas.
Our thoughts shape so much of our lives and fire up our emotions if we don't learn to control them they control us.
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