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How to Look Confident, Even if You're Not

Posted by Jody Urquhart on Mon, Jun 06, 2011 @ 12:28 PM

guest speaker for womens conferenceI was a guest speaker for a women's conference last month where I did a workshop on Building Confidence.

Below are some of the ideas presented at the womens conference to help a person instantly project confidence.

Remember that confidence builds with time and evolves the more you step up and practice. You may have to fake it until you make it. You may not feel confident; project confidence, anyway, and confidence will follow.  The story creates the event.

Stand up straight and smile. When people walk around with a discerned serious look on their face, it evokes confusion and tension. Contrast this with the person who has a warm smile. Smiling inspires confidence!  People are drawn to confidence. Pulling your shoulders back and standing taller increases energy and projects an aura of confidence.

Look people in the eyes. Have you ever met someone who does everything to avoid your gaze? How does it make you feel? Confident people generate instant warmth and rapport by looking at people in the hallway, the lunchroom, the boardroom. A fun way to get started is to practice with complete strangers on public transit. Smile when you meet their eyes or they may question your intentions, just as you tend to distrust others who fail to display warmth and confidence.  People are weird that way.

Focus on others. Insecure people tend to withdraw from social scenerios because they are busy assessing their own flaws. If you are consumed by what others think about you, you miss the opportunity to contribute to a conversation, shape others' impression of you and enjoy yourself. Turn your focus off of yourself and onto the people in the room.

Initiate conversation. Joining social circles can be confidence crushing, if you find yourself at a loss for words. Be armed with some conversation starters, something deeper than the weather, something that interests you and builds rapport with the group.

Speaking for the womens conference, we had the opportunity to role play and practice some of the techniques. Most of the women agreed these techniques get easier and more effective with use.

With these simple adjustments you can start to instantly boost your confidence, win friends and make an impact.

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