On March 20, 2015, I am a motivational speaker for the National Pest Management Association. The conference, held at the Westin Hotel in Calgary, Alberta, will attract over 200 pest control professionals from across canada.Read More
Nobody ever says, you need to stop being so damn cheerful all the time. Positive people are the stars of the workplace that others clamour to be around.
Perky peeps are never chastised for being happy. However, negative, critical or even sad souls can become social outcasts, ridiculed or even disciplined for their sour disposition.
With all this attention put to positive thinking ( and being), maybe we overlook the perks of negative, gloomy emotion or behavior patterns.
After all, we are equipped with negative emotions and thought for a reason. We didn't evolve to be positive Pollyanna's all the time. I know just as many( if not more) cynical, naturally dour people as I do positive ones.
Some peoples negativity, raw honesty and depressing perspective makes them more interesting.
Face it, sometimes life sucks. I have met some well meaning, hard working people who have been dealt a tough blow. Job loss, health issues, divorce, economic downfall can hit anyone -and at some point in life it effects everyone.
It's hard to stay positive when everything around you is falling apart. Bigger then this though is that maybe these negative experiences actually shape us and make us better people.
70 percent. This is the number people who are disengaged at work. Disengagement at work usually happens when you feel your contribution isn't recognized or doesn't matter.
Generally, the larger the organization the more disengaged people are.
If you have 10 people working with you, it's easy to see whose not pulling their weight. If you have 50 people, it's a lot harder.
Today's technology may be the answer to boost workplace morale. Technology has an ever fascinating ability to engage people. It does this by tracking activity, preferences and gives immediate feedback.
For instance, thousands of people use social networking sites; yet for any individual user the experience is personalized and responsive to them. This is the same kind of engagement we starve for in the workplace.
Keynote speaker Mike Walsh was speaking for the Human Resources Professionals Association, January 22, 2015, where he suggested this disruptive technology has the power to change the way we work.
Cloud technology, (where all this information is stored) has the power to eliminate the transactional aspects of work and focus on strategy.
Technology can change productivity and be an invitation to think more strategically. It can increase workplace engagement.
The Cloud replaces paper shuffling and increases accessibility.
The keynote speaker compelled the audience to consider:
How good are you at persuading with data?
How do you use data to change decision making?
How are you using data to change culture?
On November 15, 2015, I am a humorous motivational speaker for the Kentucky Agriculture Conference. The event brings in over 350 agriculture professionals from across Kentucky.Read More
I am currently dating a nice guy. He's not just nice to me as some sort of means to lure me in; but he is genuinely nice. He is nice to everyone.
He is a good listener, he gives people the benefit of the doubt, he is polite and respectful, he holds doors open for others. Primarily, he puts others needs ahead of his own.
I have met ( dated, been engaged to) some really good men but never the nice guy. To me the difference is nice guys consistently put others ahead of themselves, even complete strangers.
So I was very curious to ask this nice guy: do you think nice guys finish last? His answer was yes.
When I think about it, It does make sense:
Nice guys can be turned over for promotion because more pushy, self righteous people grab the spotlight.
Putting your needs behind others, you may never get what you want.
Always helping others, you may never get your own work done.
Considering others opinion takes time and can muddle results. Strong, decisive personalities often prevail.
Disregarding others is much more efficient then gathering differing opinions and representing the masses.
People who are used to getting what they want may unknowingly manipulating others to get results.
Extra work and favors tends to fall in the lap of the agreeable, accommodating type. Pretty soon it becomes expected.
Acts of kindness may go unnoticed, instead of being celebrated.
Even holding the door open for someone you come in last.
One of the key differences lies in that nice guys aren't looking for a pat on the back for their kindness, they are not keeping score. They are nice because they know it's the right thing to do and it feels good.
Although still driven to achieve and accomplish, they do so for the good of the group, not individual gain.
A nice guy likely wouldn't succumb to lying, cheating, gossip or bursts of anger. However, all of these do get you what you want. Most liars or cheaters distort the truth or cover something up for their own gain or to avoid being found out.
Even anger has its place to solicit fear in others and intimidate others to get what you want.
It's possible nice guys question themselves more then others do. Their moral compass has them second guessing what they do to determine if it's right or wrong. This kind of moral introspection can undermine forward motion.
Too bad the score card wasn't different. If people really valued the unconditional acts of kindness from the nice guy, more people would be this way.
Instead I think many people are caught up in the cycle of rewards and punishment. We act to accomplish something, and it's often self serving.
It's the way society has evolved. In organizations, you do certain things ( or fail to do them) and you get this reward or this punishment. The trouble is you get trained to expect the reward or avoid the punishment and your motivation gets wrapped around this.
Instead of doing things because it is right or it just intrinsically feels good to help others.
As more people do things just because it is right, nice guys will finally finish first.
These days, leaders gain respect through consistent trustworthy behaviour. Many leader aren't granted respect simply because of their authority position. They have to earn it through their actions, words and behavior.Read More