One of the shortest words in the English language, but one of the hardest to say is, NO.
Driven by the fear of hurting others, or letting people down, many people half heartedly agree to things they just don't want to do.
Sometimes, I am delighted to help out. Other times, I feel obligated or pressured, then, I end up resenting myself or others.
A motivational speaker once explained that guilt is an emotion reserved for when you do something wrong. Saying no is not wrong, it simply makes someone explore other options or other victims to their plans.
Some people prey on people who quiver at saying no, avoid being there victim with the following techniques:
- Learn to let people down easy. Recognize their efforts, cheer them on and let them know you will tell them if anything changes. Thank them for thinking of you and wish them the best.
- Say something like, I'm flattered that you would think of me, however I just don't have the time to take something like this on.
- Never apologize for saying no, because it's just not warranted. We should only apologize when we do something wrong.
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