Last month was my fiance's company Christmas party for kids. It was a fun filled afternoon that included Santa Claus visits, age specific wrapped gifts for all the children, a waterpark, ice skating, jungle gym and more.
As I sat there with the other adults watching our children play in the bouncy castle- I couldn't help but think, why do the kids get to have all the fun? Here we were respectable adults . . . we had earned the right to have a good time. Yet, there we sat. You would be hard pressed to find an adult who looked like they were having fun.
The adult Christmas party was a week ago and I'm pretty sure, aside from the free alcohol, we didn't have anywhere near as much fun at our party as the children had at theirs. On the quest to become adults we lost our spunk and spontaneous ability to engage in the frivilous present moment.
When I was a motivational speaker for a conference of government employees, a delegate suggested that we should have a party where you can vote adults off the island (out of the room) if they don't appear to be having fun. The problem is you can't force fun, it has to be organic and should happen naturally. You don't try to have fun, you just have it.
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How do adults let go and have fun? Here is my best guess:
- When around children. Kids bring out your playful side better than anything else. If you have children, play with your children, if you don't have children of your own, borrow from your friends and neighbors.
- When involved in creative work. Even work can be fun when you get completely absorbed in meaningful creation time flies.
- When playing games. Any games will do, as long as they are fun and engaging and allow you to stop being only an adult. I love Improv.
- When dancing. As a motivational speaker at conferences, I get to attend a lot of banquets that involve dancing. I love watching people dance. It somehow frees their spirit and brings out their spontaneous ability to enjoy the moment.
When I was the motivational speaker for the government employees, I was really surprised at how they really let loose and had fun when they got away from the office!
How do you play?