People pleasing, or the belief that everyone has to like you, is linked to depression. Putting too much weight into what other people think of you puts too much pressure on external forces and pulls power away from your own value.
Putting your own happiness in the hands of others is a bad idea, because we can't control others (although most people like to try). Instead, it helps come up with a different, more accurate, belief.
For instance, thinking that most people probably like most things about you, is a lot easier to stomach then, everyone must like me all the time.
This restructured belief will allow you to be more buoyant and resilient while not setting you up for failure. Far from 50 shades of grey, all or nothing black and white thought patterns will contribute to depression.
Research reveals that it pays to be optimistic, even if you have no reason to be. The belief that life will be better in the future will help set you up for success. Optimism makes you more positive and positive anticipation (and the accompanying illusions) are good for you.
As a funny motivational speaker, my job is to teach people to have more fun and be more resilient and positive and combat stress. The toughest crowds are the ones who need it the most!